(KNSI) – Families are preparing to come together for the holidays, for better or worse.
Experts offer advice for dealing with a loved one who always brings up uncomfortable conversations about relationships, global conflicts, work or politics. Dr. Steve Loos, clinical director of the Mental Health Center of Central Minnesota, said it’s important to set boundaries and let the other person know how they’re making you feel. Then change the subject. “When you choose a topic to try to change, bring up a topic that you know is meaningful to the person who is supposed to be talking about the other thing. So if you know they like Timberwolves, or you know they like baking, or you know they like cribbage, that gives them an alternative topic that they’re equally or similarly passionate about. .”
Authorities say that if we are in conflict with family members, we are less likely to get together regularly. Dr Loos believes it can be particularly sad if there is a gap between parents and their adult children. “The idea for parents is just to figure out how to communicate with their children and how to enjoy this moment. And the idea is that the more enjoyable times we spend together during the holidays, the more likely we are to seek each other’s company outside of the holidays.
He understands that our children will always be our children, no matter their age, but respecting their life choices can make all the difference. It is also acceptable for children to let their mother and father become parents by listening to their advice even if they do not intend to follow it and allowing them to help their children, even if it is that simple just gas money.
For more tips and resources on mental health during the holiday season, Click here.
Story by Jake Judd/KNSI
