Self-harm is a very misunderstood topic, but one that needs to be addressed in order to continue to help end the stigma when it comes to talking about issues around mental health and wellbeing.
In 2018/19, ChildLine held 13,406 self-harm counseling sessions across the UK, which is an alarming figure.
However, contrary to popular belief, self-harm is not reserved for our young people.
A recent survey carried out by mental health charity Mind found that 26 per cent of adults in the UK have self-harmed at some point in their lives; that would indicate that one in four of you reading this column may have done so.
So why do people hurt themselves? This is a complex issue that affects many people, especially those who already struggle with mental health issues such as anxiety, depression or trauma.
Some people may harm themselves to gain a sense of control over a situation they feel unable to cope with.
They may also use it to punish themselves for something they feel they did wrong, or because of something they don’t like about themselves.
For others, it’s a way to escape or cope with something that happened in their past.
Whatever the reasons, self-harm is a serious problem, but one that can easily escalate.
Many people who harm themselves do so in secret, making it difficult for others to detect them. Others may have visible signs that are easier to spot, such as scarring.
Contrary to what many might think, these actions should not be seen as attention-seeking actions. It may be a cry for help, but it’s something completely different. It is important to differentiate between the two.
For someone to stop self-harm, the root causes of it must be addressed; professional help is needed.
A common factor in many mental health problems is that people experience shame or feel completely isolated, making them reluctant to seek help.
One of the reasons for this column is to help break down barriers and end stigma when it comes to discussing our mental health.
So if today’s article concerns you or someone you know, rest assured that help is available.
There is a national website run by a charity, which offers information and coping strategies. It could prove to be a useful first step for someone needing help – www.lisigns.org.uk – as well as having some excellent coping strategies they can point to. people to other services.
I always say if you are having difficulty see your GP or call the Samaritans on 116 123, or text SHOUT to 85258, they can really help you and won’t judge you, you are not alone.
