In this edition of Ask the Doc, we get expert advice from retired U.S. Public Health Service Captain (Dr.) Joshua Morganstein, deputy director of the University’s Center for the Study of Traumatic Stress of Uniformed Services Health Sciences and vice chair of the university’s Department of Psychiatry, on how to respond to mental health concerns when a friend or loved one is going through a difficult time.
Morganstein says, “Military personnel work hard and deal with a wide range of stressors. Sometimes more difficult challenges arise. Finding ways to manage new challenges allows us to be ready and better able to support those around us.
Below are different scenarios that military personnel may experience. For each scenario, we share a key video from Morganstein’s mental health series with answers.
Dear Doc: I can tell that my boyfriend is going through a tough time right now. He is going through a divorce and other problems. I want to reach out to offer help, but it just feels awkward. How should I handle it?
-Sgt. Uncertain
Dear Sergeant. Uncertain,
It’s not easy to know how to approach a friend who might be in need, but Morganstein has three tips for you. Here’s what he had to say:
3 Simple Tips for Difficult Conversations – Part 1
Hi Doc: My coworker doesn’t seem to be herself. She is generally funny, energetic and very engaged. But lately she’s been withdrawn and maybe a little depressed. I think there’s something going on with her. What should I do?
-Cpl. Concerned
Dear Cpl. Concerned,
It’s hard to know what to do when a coworker or friend seems to be struggling, but Morganstein can help. Here is his advice on what to look for and how to contact:
What can I do if a friend is going through a difficult time?
Hi Doc: I don’t know what’s wrong with me. I don’t enjoy the things I usually do and I argue with my wife over nothing. I also have trouble sleeping – some nights I toss and turn. I have a lot of stress at work at the moment. Could this be the problem? Doc, what’s happening to me?
-The lieutenant. Lowe
Dear Lieutenant Lowe,
Morganstein has some advice for you. Here are the signs to look for when you might need help:
Thanks to all our letter writers, we hope you find the doc’s advice helpful.
Resources
The military health system has many resources available to help military members, families or veterans experiencing mental health issues.
If you are experiencing a mental health crisis, need immediate help or simply want to talk to someone, confidential help is available 24/7:
- THE Crisis Line for Military and Veteranstext messaging service and online chat provide free assistance to all military personnel, including National Guard and Reserve members, and all veterans, even if not registered with the department Veterans Affairs or enrolled in VA health care.
- The Military and Veteran Crisis Line is available outside the continental United States at:
- Europe: 844-702-5495 or DSN 988
- Pacific: 844-702-5493 or DSN 988
- Southwest Asia: 855-422-7719 or DSN 988
- Military OneSource is a 24/7 gateway to trusted information for military members and their families, providing resources and confidential help. Call 800-342-9667.
- THE Psychological Health Resource Center is available 24/7 to military members, veterans and their family members who have questions about psychological health topics. Qualified mental health consultants can help you access mental health care and community support resources in your area. Call 1-866-966-1020, start a live chator visit www.health.mil/PHRC.
- THE in transition The program has 20 FAQs which provide a useful introduction to the program. You can call 800-424-7877 or 800-748-81111 in Australia, Germany, Italy, Japan and South Korea only. You can also send the program directly by email to: dha.ncr.j-9.mbx.inTransition@health.mil.
- THE ADH, the DOD and VA have many other mental health resources available to any military member, family or veteran beneficiary who is struggling with mental health issues. Read Mental health is health for a complete list of resources for immediate assistance or to schedule an appointment.
